Sex addiction?

[sluggy]

Hey guys,

While it's probably not a genius idea to post up my issues online... I've got some really great feedback from you all here, so here I am again.

I've got my life much more sorted out than ever. I've been clean & sober for 38 months and counting... Well I guess I am addicted to gear now, but techically zero recs or alcohol. Things are all going swell for me.

Fixed up my hormone balance and the libido is pretty close to off the charts. It's a good problem to have I suppose, but just looking for feedback on how you all deal with it...

Assuming one is in a serious long term relationship.. One has sex before work, one has sex after work (before the gym), and perhaps before bed as well.. How does one make it through work? Does one have sex at lunch or just beat off at work?

Additionally if for some reason out of ones control, one can't have sex for a week or two because of a business trip, how does one survive? It would not be morally acceptable to find any random, breathing, willing female to use for sex. On the other hand masterbation is not satisfying for very long.

Suggestions?

 

[Incognito1]

For me it all comes down to self control. The more you work on self control the stronger it gets. Sure everyone would like to just go get a random girl and release the pressure so to speak. But unless you are in a relationship where that its acceptable, then the moral thing is to just deal with it and learn to control your sex drive. I know it's easier said than done but I guess that just one of the downsides to taking gear. My wife has a good sex drive but when I'm on it isn't even close in comparison to mine. I just need to understand this and deal with it.

 

[bloodshed]

Hey guys,

While it's probably not a genius idea to post up my issues online... I've got some really great feedback from you all here, so here I am again.

I've got my life much more sorted out than ever. I've been clean & sober for 38 months and counting... Well I guess I am addicted to gear now, but techically zero recs or alcohol. Things are all going swell for me.

Fixed up my hormone balance and the libido is pretty close to off the charts. It's a good problem to have I suppose, but just looking for feedback on how you all deal with it...

Assuming one is in a serious long term relationship.. One has sex before work, one has sex after work (before the gym), and perhaps before bed as well.. How does one make it through work? Does one have sex at lunch or just beat off at work?

Additionally if for some reason out of ones control, one can't have sex for a week or two because of a business trip, how does one survive? It would not be morally acceptable to find any random, breathing, willing female to use for sex. On the other hand masterbation is not satisfying for very long.

Suggestions?

It's called self control. I've had days where it is all thats on my mind, and I am in a serious long term relationship, but we both work long hours and live a half hour apart, so we don't do it every day. On the days where I'm feeling like that and I'm not with her I'll just masturbate as often as I need to. I've had to hit 7 times before(I didn't have to work this day either). Is it satisfying? no. but when you're at that point it's not even about the satisfaction anymore, more so just getting rid of that urge and getting my mind clear again. Just like when you are starved, and haven't eaten in such a period of time that you don't care what you eat, you just want to eat to get rid of the craving. But you just need to be able to control yourself enough to not have a lapse of judgment.

 

[raw33man]

yea you are a dickhead... your dick has power over your brain lol, give your brain some boost and tell that cock to shut the fuck up and chill down for a few days

 

[BigChef]

yea you are a dickhead... your dick has power over your brain lol, give your brain some boost and tell that cock to shut the fuck up and chill down for a few days

Why the name calling? You might think its a joke but others might not take it as a joke.

 

[cal]

yea you are a dickhead... your dick has power over your brain lol, give your brain some boost and tell that cock to shut the fuck up and chill down for a few days

Another great post from this guy

 

[dont wanna be old]

This is not about sex addiction I believe . You stated other problems that consumed you at those times in your life .
This is when a person does something that it is taken to extremes .
Partying was to the point is was abusive and might have been dangerous I'm guessing .
Now to the other extreme is AAS . You are consumed . The by product of increased Test , derivatives and hormones is a increased sex drive .
The way to control ( way I deal ) . Is a to reward yourself for good behavior .
Your goal or reward comes at the end of the day . I can tell you pornhub is not your friend . Just feeds the fire . Trust me , I can tell you if your in a relationship that a slip of the trust can lead to more indiscretions until it becomes to easy and then your caught .
Additive personalities isn't from AAS . You just have to figure out how to work to your advantage .
Make goals and rewards .

Good luck as your not alone .

 

[jm425]

You definitely have an addictive personality. You've moved on from drugs to aas. See the the pattern here? As for wanting to fuck everything in sight, it's a common side effect of being a male and being on aas. Like others have said, it's all about self control. Keep it in your pants when you're at work but outside of that, do whatever you wish as long as it's not breaking any laws. Just don't let it affect or ruin your relationships and work and you'll do just fine.

 

[Muscleaddict69]

You need a shrink or counselling. Simple. It's not normal to not be able to control one's urges like that. Either a shrink or meetings for recovering addicts. Drugs/sex are just the symptom of the emotional problem behind the drugs/sex addiction. Until the emotional issues are sorted out you'll just jump from one addiction to another. Been there. I'm clean nearly 12 years now off drugs. Also went through a phase of switching addictions.

 

[sluggy]

For me it all comes down to self control. The more you work on self control the stronger it gets. Sure everyone would like to just go get a random girl and release the pressure so to speak. But unless you are in a relationship where that its acceptable, then the moral thing is to just deal with it and learn to control your sex drive. I know it's easier said than done but I guess that just one of the downsides to taking gear. My wife has a good sex drive but when I'm on it isn't even close in comparison to mine. I just need to understand this and deal with it.

I have great self control in not hurting my relationship, it's just trying to think of something else in the time between. Sounds pretty freaky now that I type it out.

It's called self control. I've had days where it is all thats on my mind, and I am in a serious long term relationship, but we both work long hours and live a half hour apart, so we don't do it every day. On the days where I'm feeling like that and I'm not with her I'll just masturbate as often as I need to. I've had to hit 7 times before(I didn't have to work this day either). Is it satisfying? no. but when you're at that point it's not even about the satisfaction anymore, more so just getting rid of that urge and getting my mind clear again. Just like when you are starved, and haven't eaten in such a period of time that you don't care what you eat, you just want to eat to get rid of the craving. But you just need to be able to control yourself enough to not have a lapse of judgment.

I know exactly what you're saying, that's largely how I deal with it, but at what point does killing it 7x a day become a problem?

This is not about sex addiction I believe . You stated other problems that consumed you at those times in your life .
This is when a person does something that it is taken to extremes .
Partying was to the point is was abusive and might have been dangerous I'm guessing .
Now to the other extreme is AAS . You are consumed . The by product of increased Test , derivatives and hormones is a increased sex drive .
The way to control ( way I deal ) . Is a to reward yourself for good behavior .
Your goal or reward comes at the end of the day . I can tell you pornhub is not your friend . Just feeds the fire . Trust me , I can tell you if your in a relationship that a slip of the trust can lead to more indiscretions until it becomes to easy and then your caught .
Additive personalities isn't from AAS . You just have to figure out how to work to your advantage .
Make goals and rewards .

Good luck as your not alone .

You are very right. What kind of rewards do you give yourself? Can you please give me an example? Do you depend on the goals/rewards or have they taught you to adopt more productive behaviours over time?

You definitely have an addictive personality. You've moved on from drugs to aas. See the the pattern here? As for wanting to fuck everything in sight, it's a common side effect of being a male and being on aas. Like others have said, it's all about self control. Keep it in your pants when you're at work but outside of that, do whatever you wish as long as it's not breaking any laws. Just don't let it affect or ruin your relationships and work and you'll do just fine.

Thanks JM, I do have an addictive personality but I do have great mental strength. When stopped my substance abuse I went cold turkey and never looked back. I can see when things become a problem and stop them. With AAS I am on TRT and never on more than 600mg of total gear per week, so I feel that it's relatively "safe" and "healthy." I've almost died several times and staying alive is my main concern at this point. Bodybuilding/strength training has given me a productive outlet for the extreme, as my second home is the gym. My diet, training, and sleep take up most of my time (outside of work). In my free time I spend digging through pubmed looking for research to improve. I could use some other hobbies perhaps.

You need a shrink or counselling. Simple. It's not normal to not be able to control one's urges like that. Either a shrink or meetings for recovering addicts. Drugs/sex are just the symptom of the emotional problem behind the drugs/sex addiction. Until the emotional issues are sorted out you'll just jump from one addiction to another. Been there. I'm clean nearly 12 years now off drugs. Also went through a phase of switching addictions.

Shrinks have destroyed many of my old friends with drugs and useless talking. What kind of counselling do you suggest? A psychologist maybe? I think this would be good but I don't know where to start. I have been in competitive sports since a very young age until the end of college/university (did not decide to go pro), so I very much enjoy the dedication and discipline of the elite training levels. The issue is that I bring competition to every aspect including substance abuse, to "outdrink" others for example. I have realized that is stupid and have moved on to that. The switch to AAS was made for TRT for quality of life, as I have had several near death experiences causing substantial harm to my body and all systems. I love AAS because they allow me to feel strong and vibrant and healthy again.

 

[Gators]

Usually, those of us suffering from addiction have deeper issues, and the drinking / drugging is a symptom of the bigger issues, again, usually. That said, i quit smoking coke 23 years ago because i did not want to die. I never went through recovery, managed alcohol pretty good until i was about 38ish, and was a functional alcoholic until i quit at 44. At this time i got really involved in a 12 step recovery group, and i've now dealt with all my underlying issues, and life is SOOOO much better. I have to watch everything i do, moderation is the key, as well as stay away from 'unhealthy' behavior like flogging the midget, because there's usually porn involved, and i just can't go there, but that's just me.

As i've gotten older, i've come to view sex differently, and im not interested in sex unless it's with a lady that i love. Now, if Halle Berry wanted to put it on me, i'd be a hypocritical mutha because i would def have sex w her. But i dunno, as i progress in recovery more, my bond w/the God of my understanding grows, and my views on things like sex have changed a lot.

That's just my experience, about all i can offer, hope that helps.

 

[turbobusa]

Guys with these type issues probably best to steer clear of prami and dost.
T

 

[bloodshed]

Guys with these type issues probably best to steer clear of prami and dost.
T

Agreed! In my previous post when I mentioned 7x a day I was using prami!

 

[sluggy]

Guys with these type issues probably best to steer clear of prami and dost.
T

Yeah caber is great too!

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[jm425]

I have great self control in not hurting my relationship, it's just trying to think of something else in the time between. Sounds pretty freaky now that I type it out.



I know exactly what you're saying, that's largely how I deal with it, but at what point does killing it 7x a day become a problem?



You are very right. What kind of rewards do you give yourself? Can you please give me an example? Do you depend on the goals/rewards or have they taught you to adopt more productive behaviours over time?



Thanks JM, I do have an addictive personality but I do have great mental strength. When stopped my substance abuse I went cold turkey and never looked back. I can see when things become a problem and stop them. With AAS I am on TRT and never on more than 600mg of total gear per week, so I feel that it's relatively "safe" and "healthy." I've almost died several times and staying alive is my main concern at this point. Bodybuilding/strength training has given me a productive outlet for the extreme, as my second home is the gym. My diet, training, and sleep take up most of my time (outside of work). In my free time I spend digging through pubmed looking for research to improve. I could use some other hobbies perhaps.



Shrinks have destroyed many of my old friends with drugs and useless talking. What kind of counselling do you suggest? A psychologist maybe? I think this would be good but I don't know where to start. I have been in competitive sports since a very young age until the end of college/university (did not decide to go pro), so I very much enjoy the dedication and discipline of the elite training levels. The issue is that I bring competition to every aspect including substance abuse, to "outdrink" others for example. I have realized that is stupid and have moved on to that. The switch to AAS was made for TRT for quality of life, as I have had several near death experiences causing substantial harm to my body and all systems. I love AAS because they allow me to feel strong and vibrant and healthy again.

I understand to the fullest where you are coming from bro. It takes someone with a lot of internal strength and fortitude to quit using. I quit smoking and using rec drugs many years ago as well and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do and did it without going to rehab. What really helped me through that time was focusing most of my time to work and bbing. You do have what it takes to control your sexual urges. Just have to tap into that and find a hobby outside work. I have a good feeling that you'll make it through this just fine.

 

[jaltb4k]

i have this problem when NOT using gear. one of the largest benefits to me using gear is to make my sex drive normal. i use gear that shuts my test down and i then have a normal sex drive. it is a very real problem my freind and if your truly commited to you signifigant other,then youll have to make your obsession revolve around her and her only. and lastly like all the rest have said,it comes down to self control. one thing that helps me keep my priorities in focus is to remember that no matter if im in a 3 way with 2 super hot women,with my wife or even just beat off myself.............it always ends the same.

 

[matt1164]

you can always mess up your hormones again and lower your sex drive if its that much of a problem

 

[FordFan]

Just get married and she will take care of your addiction. You'll get ass non stop for about 1 year. Then it gets curt off until she wants something ( furniture, car, etc). She will be in control then brother. You will learn how to go without. Gets even better if she's on meds that kill her libido. Mine could go 2+ months without sex while on her meds. For experiment she stopped her meds for 2 days. Fucked my brains out both days. It's an antidepressant med. sadly, she likes taking the medication. Bitches......

 

[Sicdog]

Fordfan you hit the nail on the head LOL. That is exactly what my wife does. She also takes antidepressants.

 

[jm425]

i have this problem when NOT using gear. one of the largest benefits to me using gear is to make my sex drive normal. i use gear that shuts my test down and i then have a normal sex drive. it is a very real problem my freind and if your truly commited to you signifigant other,then youll have to make your obsession revolve around her and her only. and lastly like all the rest have said,it comes down to self control. one thing that helps me keep my priorities in focus is to remember that no matter if im in a 3 way with 2 super hot women,with my wife or even just beat off myself.............it always ends the same.

Your wife let's you get it on with other women??? Lucky bastard.