This relationship is in its adolescence. You have nowhere near the information about him (or her) at this point to make such a determination. There are plenty of successful couples out there who have survived much, much worse. So far we have drunken hurtful words. Deeply hurtful words, but still just words. Of course she dated guys before
@Virtuous . My wife was certainly no choir girl before we met. And we've had hard times as well. Coming up on 12 years now including surviving two pregnancies and one brush with possible infidelity (I insist it wasn't infidelity, she disagrees). Should I just toss her away?
Last week she said I was the biggest asshole she ever met. This morning she started blowing me while I was brushing my teeth.
If we're to just toss away every person that says or does something hurtful to us, however minor, we're going to live damn lonely lives. People say dumb shit all the time. Maybe she did think the ring was small initially. So what? You can replace a stone. Many couples do exactly that anyway together and it's a rewarding experience for them both. Now, talking to her ex's is bad because if the guy she's talking to still wants her, he's going to be laying his game on her. So that should stop.
But so far, some very harsh words is where we're at. And she has a kid, and he loves both of them. So she may think she can just go out and find another guy and trade up but with a kid in tow, that's not going to be as easy as she may think.
People are on here talking about walking away as taking the hard/strong route. No. Keeping families together today is the hard route. We don't walk away when things get tough. And this will take work. But surviving adversity (unless we're talking outright abuse) forges stronger relationships, not weaken them.
If you keep one foot out the door at all times, your relationship cannot survive. You have to go all in. And that takes balls.